Showing posts with label Gay. Show all posts
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Thursday, June 14, 2012

Head On (1998) by Ana Kokkinos

I'm gonna live my life, I'm not gonna make a difference, I'm not gonna change a thing. No one's gonna remember me when I'm dead. I'm a sailor, and a whore, and I will be until the end of the world.


I'm halfway through "Head On" (1998), an indie Australian film about a gay Greek 19 year old, who is searching for meaning in a racist, homophobic society that rejects his culture and his lifestyle.  He seeks escape from this harsh reality by indulging in a seedy underworld of sex, drugs, gambling, and other ephemeral means to chase a high.

It's also the first film, I've seen that's delved into Greek culture so unabashedly and uncensored.  I loved the scene where the father tenderly dances with his son to a traditional Greek song and presses his forehead on his son's.  This tender moment is rare amidst all the yelling and fighting between father and son.  Ana Kokkinos did a great job in blending the cultural as well as sexual struggle that Ari deals with growing up in an unwelcoming Australia.

After Ari tries to but finds sex with a female unappealing.  The girl calls him a "poufter" at first but then settles down and says, "I'm glad you don't act like a faggot, Ari" to which he replies:  "I'm a man...I don't take it up the ass."  She snorts, "Of course you do, you're Greek.  They all take it up the ass. [...] Fucking life!  I hate this fucking life!  I fucking hate it..."

At a bar, an intellectual girl states,  "That's what wrong about this country.  Everyone hates everyone.  The skips hate the wogs.  The wogs hate the Asians.  And everyone hates the blacks."

(If you're from the states and aren't familiar with Aussie slang, like me.  Check out this site.  The racial slurs used in the quote above:  skip = white Australian, wog = Mediterranean person.)

This certainly ain't "My Big Fat Greek Wedding."

The best bildungsroman movie I've seen in awhile.

Trailer:



I liked this review on IMDB by mattydee74 (Sydney):

Head On is an amazing film. Its beauty and treasures lie in not judging the journey taken in the film but opening up to the experiences of a young man lost and hidden. Its not a bright, gay film but rather a fiery drama which doesn't offer answers but depicts a painful truth which many would prefer to disregard. This is a film about the loss of hope in the jaded nineties. It is very much a local film (shot in Melbourne) and an Australian film, but I think it offers up wider and more general issues. 


Few films capture the mood of the 1990s quite like Head On. It is a film embedded with characterisitics which intuitively identify the strangely blank decade that edged up to the 21st century. If the eighties was - though simplistically - regarded as the decade of high paced materialism. The 90s can be seen as a time of conservatism and cautiousness - again too simplistically - which could be regarded as the tired decade. A time imbued with a feeling that everything had already been done. Grunge embodied this, as did the increasing popularity of pastiche and remakes such as the way television shows were more and more the source for films. It was a time where even moreso than in previous decades - the answers and ideas were sort in ready-made forms. Reused, resurrected and exploited. Sarcasm and cynicism became law. Pettiness became more and more common. Many of us were just tired out. 

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Joel Burns' Moving Confession and Uplifting Message

A string of teen suicides — including one fourth grader — due to bullying of boys accused of being gay, has spurred openly gay Texan city council member, Joel Burns, to speak out against the psychological torment of America's children. He told teens struggling with their sexuality or with bullying or both that "it gets better."

This intolerance and hatred born out of fear, I believe, is due to the collective shame and rejection of the natural sexual orientation that occurs frequently in nature amongst dolphins, monkeys, birds, and other animal species but is categorically labelled as degenerate and reprobate by an ignorant and judgmental human race. (Read more about homosexual activity in nature here and here.)

Often times, bullies are merely repressed, closeted cowards, who lash out at those courageous enough to come out in the open, at a relatively young age during the turbulent high school years, for it brings to light what they wish to keep in the dark.

Joel Burns urges in this viral video not to end one's life over disapproval, taunting, ostracization, bullying, etc. because it is only temporary.

Joel Burns: "Yes, high school was difficult. Coming out was painful, but life got so much better for me. And I want to tell any teen who might see this, give yourself a chance to see just how much better life will get — and it will get better. You will get out of the household that doesn’t accept you. You will get out of that high school and you never have to deal with those jerks again if you don’t want to. You will find and you will make new friends who will understand you, and life will get so, so, so, much better.

I look back at my life as full of so many happy memories that I wish I could share with those whose photos were shown up above earlier and those who have taken their lives. Memories that I wish I could share with the 13-year-old version of me on that very unfortunate day..."

Full transcript can be read here (lots of typos and mistakes in that transcript but you get the idea).



It would be wise to view this trying time as the universe's way of tempering and fortifying the steel of your fortitude and integrity.

"If you're going through hell, keep going."
-Winston Churchill

P.S.: Thank you, Conor S., for sending this video to me.